Every day, the moment we turn on our televisions, the news is filled with headlines of domestic abuse and violence, one after the other. You hear accounts of murder, child negligence and assault against those living in the same home. It has been twenty years since the Violence against Women Act (VAWA) has been passed, and there are still overwhelming instances of spousal abuse in the home.
Domestic abuse and violence, especially violence against women in America has been a problem that communities and organizations across the board have been trying to combat. Violence in the home, namely spousal abuse does not only occur in the homes of poor people; it affects every one of all incomes. It starts with one incident, and then becomes a circle of violence which is very hard to break.
This cycle of violence begins with a loss of communication. The abuser starts to get angry and the victim feels as if they are walking on eggshells. This is followed by the actual abuse happening. Afterwards, is the start of the “honeymoon” phase, where the abuser showers the victim with apologies, affection, gifts and promises that they will never be hurt again. Shortly after, begins the loss of communication once more, restarting the cycle.
Although thought of in the same light, domestic abuse can take other forms. The abuser taking control of finances, always having to know where the victim is, controlling who he/she sees and setting a curfew for their spouse are other precursors to domestic violence.
A home should be a place where one feels secure; no one should ever have to live in fear of their spouse. New York Top Attorney Inna Fershteyn is a certified mediator who has over 600 hours of experience at the Center for Victim’s Services in Brooklyn. She is certified in Guardianship Proceedings, does Order of Protection if needed, and has experience in Family Law
If you have any questions, or are seeking help, don’t waste any time. Contact the Law Office of Inna Fershteyn today at 718-333-2394